Step into your Main Character Energy, and create the most epic season of your love life.
Release people pleasing, build rock solid self-trust, and become the main character of your life in 6 months or less.
"This work has been a portal to my freedom."
- Stephanie
Your high achieving, badass tendencies have created a pretty awesome life. Except...
✨ You say “Yes,” to people, experiences, work commitments, and dates that you know aren’t right for you… for fear that “no” will cut you off from the right person (cue: exhaustion and burnout)
✨ Your life looks like it's fabulous from the outside, though inside, you feel stuck and yearning for something bigger, you just can't put your finger on what.
✨ You know you are whole and amazing and loved without a romantic relationship, AND you really desire the right partner to do life with… It’s hard to hold both those things at once.
✨ You're exhausted by all the emotional labor and people pleasing you're doing, and you don't know how to stop.
✨ You’ve been shrinking– your brilliance, your “too muchness”, your preferences, your desires, your boundaries – in your life. For fear that what you want doesn’t exist.
Imagine what it would look like if…
→ You deeply, completely trusted yourself.
→ You said “no” really often, to everything that doesn’t serve you. You blessed and released with ease.
→You attracted the juiciest dates to you with little to no work and all the joy.
→ A normal occurrence was to approach, flirt with, and ask out the cute person at the park/bar/work with complete confidence. Knowing that you are the shit.
→ “Too much” no longer felt like an insult. You know that expanding into your full personality, your full desires, your full complexity means that you’re on the right path.
→ You were an EXPERT at moving through hard feelings. You were an EXPERT at holding complex both/ands, holding yourself in compassion.
→ You gave yourself permission to follow Every. Single. Desire. And you took massive action to meet your own needs, in belonging with other women who have your back 100%.
→ Your whole life was settle-proof. And full of joyful, badass self-belief and courageous action in your expansive love life.
Stepping into your Main Character Energy makes extraordinary partnership inevitable.
It makes the most pleasurable life possible a reality.
It makes self-trust a baseline of existence.
It creates a portal to your freedom.
This is your LOVE life.
And it’s time for you to take center stage.
Release people pleasing, build rock solid self-trust, and become the main character of your life in 6 months or less.
Main Char·ac·ter En·er·gy:
(noun/adjective/embodiment)
Taking center stage in your own dang life. Owning what you want and asking for it out loud. Approaching cute people with ease. Taking care of yourself with the utmost compassion. YOU are in charge and capable of creating the coolest life imaginable.
It's a skill set. It’s an embodiment. It's the character at the end of the movie feeling filled to the brim with confidence, self-trust, and deep connection to herself and her juicy love story.
Here’s how you’ll build the life-changing practice of Main Character Energy:
MASSIVE PERMISSION
Feel any feeling. Want what you want. Set fierce boundaries. Prioritize YOU.
MASSIVE SELF-TRUST
Have your own back. Deeply know that your desires are inevitable.
MASSIVE, COURAGEOUS ACTION
Play. Flirt. Get messy. Do things that make you say, “Who is THIS version of me?” See massive results.
We’re going to make bold moves. Not just in your romantic life, in your life in general. What’s serving you, what’s not? Let’s get you in the driver’s seat.
How does Main Character Energy Mastermind work?
With a small group of like-minded badasses, here's what we're going to do in this luxurious, unhurried, nervous-system-resetting, life-changing 6 months:
Month 1
HEAL
Time to let your love life nervous system reset. Build deep self-trust. Give yourself massive permission to want what you want.
Unpack Past Patterns
Untangle Patriarchal conditioning
Heal your relationship to your desires
Month 2
ALIGN
Own every desire. Continue building your self-trust. Align with YOUR pleasure. Align with the bigness of what you desire.
Align with massive pleasure.
Align with your juiciest Main Character Energy
Align with courageous boundaries
Month 3
PLAY
Tune into your Main Character Energy and choose your Main Character Energy Project. (could be focused on dating, friendship, work-life, boundary setting, pleasure-seeking)
Get messy, release perfectionism, take Massive Action.
Play with asking EXACTLY for what you want
Play with taking massive action
Play with bold-ass Boundaries
Month 4
RECEIVE
Build and receive the evidence you need to create a bold-ass love life. Take yourself out on steamy solo dates. Receive massive pleasure from giving yourself exactly what you desire.
Receive YOUR brilliance (believing you're the shit)
Receive evidence that what you want exists
Receive more than enough time
Month 5
ALLOW
Time to define your new Main Character Energy and let it sink in even deeper. Do brave shit that 4 months ago you wouldn’t believe. (complete with “Do the thing” challenges that will have you stepping into center stage every single day).
Allow (and define) YOUR Main Character Energy
Allow your agency (because you get to be the boss)
Allow your massive pleasure
Month 6
BE
Keep taking courageous action towards your Main Character Energy Project, deepen in your breakthroughs, keep trusting yourself hard core.
BE in YOUR Main Character Energy
BE the boldest you've ever been
BE in your most courageous self-trust
*Rest weeks are built in throughout these 6 months.
In Main Character Energy Mastermind, we don’t follow the rules.
We create them.
Apply right here
The Main Character Energy Retreat.
A life-changing, joyful-as-hell, in-person experience.
NYC, March 1-2, 2024
Here’s how this weekend together is going to deepen your Main Character Energy:
Be in belonging. Deepen your breakthroughs. Experience being cared for and lovingly challenged in a way that levels up your standards. Settle proof every vacation, every date, every friendship that comes after this weekend together.
What's included:
✨ 2.5 Days of deep dive coaching, led by me
✨ Welcome Party + Brazen Swag Bag
✨ Curated Main Character Energy NYC experiences
✨ Luxurious surprise experiences
Note: This in-person retreat is not a mandatory part of your investment in Main Character Energy Mastermind, both/and it’s highly encouraged that you prioritize this part of the experience.
Full deets: Our 2.5 Day IN PERSON (no recordings) Experiential Retreat will take place in NEW YORK CITY, March 2024.
*Travel and Accommodations not included.
WARNING:
Growing your Main Character Energy with us might/probably will fuck some shit up in your life (in a good way).
There are people pleasing patterns you’re going to shed.
There is massive permission you thought you needed from others that you are going to give YOURSELF.
There are big desires that YOU don’t even know you have yet.
Awakening your Main Character Energy will change how you show up in the world. It will draw that which is meant for you closer. It will create a new kind of intimacy with yourself. It will mean you create your own freedom.
Success in Main Character Energy Mastermind is expansive.
Yes, you can meet an incredible life partner like Maddie or Maya or Stephanie or Erica or Leigh did (list goes on and on). BOTH/AND →
Equally celebrated success has looked like:
✨ Anisha co-founding the most badass company that is changing lives around the world because she stepped into her Main Character Energy.
✨ Caitlin quitting what was considered the “dream job” (by everyone else’s standards) after years of fear that this was “as good as it gets.” And moving across the country to her actual dream city.
✨ Maddie set a badass boundary at work and got a full peony sleeve tattoo because it’s what she always wanted to do.
✨ Zulay blessing and releasing the wrong people for her with EASE and little-to-no mind drama. (someone she would have spent years with before)
The list goes on and on.
What’s included:
Six months of intimate group coaching with other badasses who have your back so you can get yourself coached, commit to your transformation, and be surrounded by belonging weekly.
In-Person, luxurious experiential retreat in NYC March 2024 so you can deepen your breakthroughs and LITERALLY take center stage. (if you choose the "ALL THE JUICE" package) *note: you're in charge of your travel and lodging for the 2.5 day retreat.
Main Character Energy Workbook– weekly deep dives and self-trust homework so you can understand your complex, beautiful brain, get in-charge of your breakthrough, and see literal, massive growth.
Daily Coaching in our Private Slack Channel where you’ll get coaching between sessions so you can get accountable to your desires, get encouragement, and big support.
Luxurious Welcome Box with my favorite self-care treats and your physical workbook.
Training Library including "Give Fewer Fucks," "Partner with your imperfection," Caring for Your Nervous System trainings.
Monthly WOC Lounge led by self-worth coach and therapist, Dontea' Mitchell-Hunter. This is another safe space to be supported, seen, and heard as a WOC, in addition to your regular calls with Lily.
BONUS: 1:1 Main Character Energy Intensive with Lily. Inside this 1 hour, one-on-one intensive, you and Lily will dive deep into creating your Main Character Energy plan for the next six months, including mapping out your custom MCE Project.
Women of Color Lounge
Hi there! I'm Dontea', and I lead the Women of Color Lounge inside Main Character Energy Mastermind. This monthly group call and Slack channel are a safe space to be supported, seen, and heard as a WOC, in addition to your regular calls with Lily.
Inside this monthly call, and private Slack channel, we dive into your specific questions and challenges as it relates to cultivating your Main Character Energy, especially in your love life. Come hangout, be free, speak openly. This is not a hustle and bustle place. It's where you can come, be your full self, and receive restorative community, connection, and coaching to support your Main Character Energy journey.
A little about me: I'm a self-worth coach, licensed therapist, and speaker that helps women get out of unfulfilling relationships and recreate self-love & happiness - single or partnered. I can't wait to support you. See you inside!
- Dontea' Mitchell-Hunter
Here’s what life will look like AFTER the
Main Character Energy Mastermind…
✨ You feel a deep sense of calm, hope, and ease about taking center stage in your love life (and your life in general). You feel safer, more supported, more hopeful, more sure. You know exactly how to meet and attract the right people for you. You are living your whole-ass-life every single day.
✨ You only say yes to dates, friendships, purchases, commitments that are RIGHT for you. You set boundaries often. You hold yourself in massive self-compassion when you feel hard feelings. YOU are the main character now and it means your life feels more joyful and aligned than ever before.
✨ Your love life (and life in general) feel ALIGNED with who you KNOW you are. Your Main Character Energy season is here, and people in your love life are taking note.
✨ You just blessed and released someone who looked amazing on paper and didn’t feel right… And someone says, “You’re too much.” In response, you smile and say: “If I’m too much for them, they’re not enough for me.”
✨ You give yourself massive permission to want whatever the hell you want, and what you want feels 100% available to you. You have settle-proofed your love life.
✨ You have created your own fucking rules. In your love life and beyond. You and your needs are what is driving the car. When hard feelings come up (because you know, you’re still human), you know how to feel your way through them with fierce self-compassion and expert self-trust.
✨ There is 100x more play and pleasure and joy in your life. Dating is now something you do as an expression of your desire. You are no longer shrinking ANYWHERE. You know what you want, you know you are worthy of it, you ask for what you want, and you are in the practice of receiving. All. The. Time.
Shwetika
"Living in a patriarchal society, being a woman of color and an immigrant, I'm so not used to my needs being the thing that moves the train.
After this process, I'm not wasting my time anymore. This process made me center myself. ”
"WOW, where do I start? I quit my job, traveled more, took more risks, learned a lot, and met a group of women who inspired me to be more, do more, and celebrate more. I feel inspired in a way I have not felt in a long time. I feel more capable in relationships (friends, family, romantic).
Joining the Main Character Energy Mastermind has been a life-changing experience for me. Prior to the program, my Main Character Energy was waiting to emerge, lacking guidance and tools. Now, I confidently embody my Main Character Energy, experiencing its positive influence in all areas, especially my love life.
I have witnessed profound shifts, nurturing self-compassion, self-trust, and resilience. The program empowered me to navigate uncertainty and embrace my true self. To those who find themselves on the fence about joining the Main Character Mastermind, I wholeheartedly encourage you to take the leap. The experience of being seen, supported, and celebrated within a community of incredible, empowered women is truly priceless.
The connections and friendships formed are nourishing and provide a solid foundation for growth. I want to express my heartfelt appreciation to Coach Dontea' for her empathetic and kind presence in the BIPOC Lounge. Her support and guidance have been invaluable on my journey. My deepest gratitude to Lily for creating this transformative space. Thank you for being a catalyst for positive change and helping me embrace my Main Character Energy to its fullest potential!"
-Diana, Houston
Here's our 30-day Guarantee
Everyone's needs and brain are different. That's why we offer a 30 day refund policy.
Both/and this process only works if you show up and do the work.
If after 30 days you don’t feel that this program is a fit for you, we will refund you the amount of the 5 remaining months of your experience. If you choose the payment plan option, the rest of your payment plan will be refunded.
IMPORTANT NOTE:
Only those who have attended all Month 1 group coaching sessions will be eligible for a 5-month refund.
Main Character Energy Mastermind isn't for everyone, and we are pumped to serve the people who will most benefit from this program.
My story
7 years ago, I was a top professional matchmaker, setting up hundreds, and was also in a toxic romantic relationship. I felt completely lost. Shoving my needs into a box. Unsure if more was possible for me.
Questions that kept me up at night: “Was I allowed to ask for what I wanted? (my brain said: “No way.”)
Were me and my needs “too much”? (my brain said: “Yep, tone it down.”)
Did people-pleasing and perfectionism have to be my default to feel safe??? (my brain said: “100%! Keep us SAFE.”)
And my body was desiring more. When I started looking beneath the surface of my checklist, why I was ok accepting so little, and how my mindset was holding me back from accepting more, this process started transforming my life.
I starting feeling confident in who I was and how I was dating. I felt joy in my single life. I dated with boundaries and a clear path forward. And found my life-partner, Chris, as a result.
After coaching hundreds of women to build dating lives that feel like an act of self-care, I know creating the expansive, joyful, and courage-filled love life you desire (including attracting the right person and BEING in the right relationship) means coming home to yourself. It means building and believing your Main Character Energy.
Main Character Energy Mastermind is the work I’ve been put on this earth to do. It’s not about “single or coupled.” This is about how you step into your own your desires and claim your freedom.
The patriarchy has impacted all of us. And it’s actively gating your brilliance. Your freedom. Your pleasure. Your joy.
Time to call bullshit on those old paradigms. It’s time to create your OWN rules of engagement in your love life. It’s time to reclaim and live your Main Character Energy.
After this work, literally EVERY love life decision you make will be the right one.
All your hot questions
(and my answers) 🔥
Is this new Mastermind about dating?
What’s the application process like?
Pricing?
What if I want help with just dating?
Is this experience only for women?
Can I join if I say “All lives matter.”
What’s included again?
Do I have time for this?
Picture this...
It’s March 2024, you’re living and vibing on your powerful Main Character Energy. Your nervous system has shifted. You’ve upleveled every inch of your life. That framed picture of you from our in-person retreat is front and center in your home.
You are more compassionate towards yourself. You’ve completely changed your relationship to your love life, and now, you’re the center of your story.
You know that your main character-ass is thriving and will continue to thrive, holding all the complexity, imperfection, and beauty that you possess.
And you know your best life is here, and also on its way.
You coming?
Let’s build the most joyful, pleasure-filled, permission-granted Main Character Energy season, together.
✨ More client success ✨
"Before joining the Mastermind, I wasn't fully embracing my Main Character Energy (MCE). I often deferred to others emotionally, neglecting my own needs. But now, I feel incredibly empowered in all aspects of my life, including my love life. I have the tools to ask for what I want confidently.
Since joining the Main Character Mastermind, I've experienced significant shifts. I establish better boundaries and prioritize self-care during difficult situations. I've also noticed a positive shift in attracting the right people and energy into my life.
To anyone on the fence, I say, go for it! The support and tools are incredibly valuable. I've gained lifelong insights that will stay with me.
My favorite part of the Main Character Energy Mastermind was the group dynamic. Witnessing everyone's growth and transformation, and receiving individual coaching from Lily in front of the group felt empowering and safe.
I'm so happy I invested in MCEM. I now embrace all parts of myself and fearlessly ask for what I want. It has been a truly empowering experience!"
- Hana, Los Angeles
"The Main Character Energy Mastermind has had a profound impact on my life. I now feel centered and confident in expressing my desires in my romantic life. The program has equipped me with the skills to create a compelling dating profile, navigate first dates, and seek support from friends.
Since joining, I've experienced significant shifts, such as quickly letting go of mismatched matches and building emotional connections when appropriate. Investing in the program was driven by my desire for structure, accountability, and a supportive community, which it delivered. I wholeheartedly recommend the Main Character Mastermind to anyone on the fence. The blend of dating guidance, group coaching, and community support is invaluable. The community and safe space for sharing were my favorite aspects. I'm immensely grateful for this transformative experience. Thank you!"
- Katie
"Joining the Main Character Energy Mastermind was a transformative experience for me. Before the program, I had glimpses of my Main Character Energy but lacked a clear vision. Now, I have a clearer understanding of my desires and envision a supportive and adventurous love life.
The shifts I’ve witnessed in my life, especially in self-trust, have been remarkable. I invested in the program for more self-trust, Lily's guidance, and connection with the community. I encourage those on the fence to lean into self-trust and embrace the transformative six-month journey with Lily and the incredible community. My favorite part was the community, especially during the retreat, and I look forward to nurturing the positive energy. I want to express my gratitude for this program.
Shannon, D.C.
"Investing in the Main Character Energy Mastermind exceeded my expectations. I was drawn to the program by a dream of being part of a fierce coven of cheerleaders, guided by Lily and her incredible feminist wisdom.
For anyone on the fence about signing up for the Main Character Energy Mastermind, I would ask: Do you have the space in your life to completely change your view of self? If the answer is yes, then don't hesitate. This program will empower you in ways you never thought possible. One of my favorite aspects of the Main Character Energy Mastermind is the deep support and friendship I've found within my MCE coven of cheerleaders. It's an incredible feeling to be surrounded by like-minded individuals who are dedicated to their personal growth and success. To sum up, MCEM has truly changed my life. If you’re ready to embrace Main Character Energy and step into your power, this program is for you."
-Gabrielle, Atlanta
I met a partner who has become such an integral part of my life.
After diving in, my dating life is like night and day. I met a partner who has become such an integral part of my life. He’s serious about maintaining a healthy relationship, communicates well, and treats me like a queen. Now I know that I deserve nothing less for my life.
- Maya, D.C.
"You're investing in becoming more of yourself."
Dating was so challenging and I didn’t know why… When you're 35+, you're single, you're fabulous, you're successful. There was a web of confusion surrounding me as to "what's wrong". And I get that from my family and friends, like everyone's trying to “solve the problem” of my singleness.
I also felt like I was constantly doing the same thing and expecting a different result. But I wasn’t sure how to interrupt the pattern. My therapist had said, “When you put money behind something, things start to shift because your energy thereby follows.”
So I started listening to your podcast, and I was like, this person's different, she’s talking about things differently. So I decided to take the leap and coach with Lily.
I didn't really anticipate the impact that focusing on my dating life in this conscious way would actually impact the way that I approach my whole life.
After doing this work, I’m no longer making myself small, and I’m not turning down the volume on what I really feel, think, and need. And so really, I feel like if I could say something to past Kate about this, it's, "You're investing in becoming more of yourself."
I know that I will find the transformative relationship I deserve, as opposed to something that I’m just settling for. I learned how to trust myself, and that is very fucking tactical.
This coaching experience was like a self-care retreat I was continually on. This was a place I carved out for myself with like-minded, beautiful, capable, hardworking, driven women who are also still looking for this piece of their life to be fulfilled. I felt like I had a home here.
- Kate, Denver
"Sign up now before I sign up for a third time! JK JK. Kinda. For real, my answer: Finding a group of like-minded women, in a similar place in life, who are willing to go deep and be vulnerable, is rare. The opportunity to share space with amazing women who value growth, and support your growth, has been transformative. I look forward to long friendships with my cohort.
Before joining MCEM, I was perhaps the best friend character--definitely a supporting character to my besties--but not sure I embodied MCE in my love life. I can see the potential and I'm more close to realizing, on an ongoing basis, my MCE now that I've gotten glimpses of it. It feels more like a slow evolution than a lightning strike.
I met John, a sparkly partner, immediately after the retreat! We had a phone screen (while I was in DC for work) and upon returning home from the retreat/DC, we had our first in-person date!!! I've also asked for (and received) a yes to a bold ask at work (leadership coaching). I've also noticed more self-compassion in myself and seen it in others.
Honestly, a large part of it was the community and the container that Lily creates. I knew I valued the community from my work in Brazen Breakthrough, and there was still work to explore. The in-person component, the duration, and the more holistic topic made it a no-brainer."
- Christine
"Joining Main Character Energy Mastermind changed my life. I can't believe the transformation I've experienced in just a few months.
Before this program, I felt this pressure to be perfect in everything I did, thanks to societal norms and my own Enneagram 3 ENT Sagittarius personality. And in Main Character Energy Mastermind, I learned to embrace imperfections and allow myself to be vulnerable in my love life (and everywhere) daily. I became more patient with myself and more self-trusting that the right things would come.
I knew this Mastermind was working when a man approached me and asked me out out of the blue. It was an extremely tangible moment, realizing this work I have done to exude this joy, to bring in the kind of people who are attracted to that joy, was very real.
Every time I needed coaching, I knew you were there to support me and any other member who needed support. That was magical. The weekly sessions, workbook, and thoughtful insights left me inspired and motivated to take charge of my life and be the main character of my love life and life in general."
- Karin
I do not think I would have made the courageous decision to quit my job, move across the country, and start on a new life had it not been for this coaching.
Dating was a vicious cycle of hell-- casting a wide net that included all these guys I knew deep down I didn't like, going on dates, forcing myself to go on second/third dates, and then being so irritated that a night was wasted or that I had a terrible time.
I rarely went on a fulfilling or fun first date because I was actually so burned out from dates. I was also swiping at all times of day and just felt so burned out and disappointed.
I felt really silly signing up and doing it- but I knew that something had to give and left to my own devices, I was not going to find anything different. Working with a dating coach felt tremendously self-indulgent and I also felt like a bit of a failure as a dater for "needing" a dating coach.
I do not think I would have made the courageous decision to quit my job, move across the country, and start on a new life had it not been for this coaching. It sounds so dramatic, but this work helped me realize how much control I had over outcomes-- whether in dating, in life, or in work.
That is the most major- but in my dating life, I feel incredibly optimistic, full of power, and I feel so confident.
DO IT. There is absolutely nothing to lose-- and I can guarantee you will get so much positive out of the experience. DO IT. DO IT. DO IT.
- Caitlin, Portland