āIām in an amazing relationship and it has everything to do with this program.
Through. this work, I centered myself. I got clarity on exactly what I was looking for, so I was able to bless and release for theĀ people who āmight have been greatā but werenāt the right fit. And now, this relationship feels grounded and authentic and hot. Yay!ā
- Stephanie
So, you're a badass human. That's a given.
Annnnnnd dating feels like the ONE place that is still "unfigureoutable" and out of alignment with your awesomeness.
You're not alone.
āØYou’ve swiped for years, found some *pretty good* dates, a few relationships, but nothing that feels like the extraordinary partnership you crave.
āØYou’re sick of the conventional dating advice that says: stop being “so picky,” play the numbers game, and my personal favorite, “You’re too much, tone it down.”
āØMost of your friends are partnered, and they don’t get your dating struggle. You sometimes wonder why it happened so easily for them and why it hasn’t come so easily for you.
āØāØYou have tried restarting your dating life again and again… (see: apps, speed dating, done everything your friends, therapist, coworker, and that Tiktok coach suggested.) And dating still feels exhausting and a little hopeless.
āØ Up at 1am, you ask yourself: Is it me? Am I doing something "wrong"?
Imagine what it would look like if...
→ You felt calm and certain in your most powerful dating strategy, online and in person.
→ You unabashedly gave yourself permission to want (and have) EVERYTHING you want. No such thing as "too picky."
→ You were surrounded by other badass single folks who have normalized belonging in your love life.
→ Your dating life was an expression of your joy and agency. No more shrinking, you're taking up SPACE!
→ You were 100% confident that you would find extraordinary not in spite of, but BECAUSE of your whole self.
The answer is you, learning exactly how to be your own expert matchmaker with proven, self-trust-filled tools and fierce community.
CREATE A CONFIDENT AND JOYFUL-AS-FUCK DATING LIFE THAT MAKES THE RIGHT RELATIONSHIP INEVITABLE
By the end of this program, you will have:
Illuminated your past relationship patterns, identified mindset blocks, and detoxed from dating apps that had you feeling stuck and disempowered.
Identified your deeper, essence-based preferences to gain clarity and confidence in the sort of people who will make you come alive across the table.
Chosen all your intentional Q/D questions-- an authentic system to qualify the right dates and disqualify the rest so you can be a fierce, boundaried queen in your dating life- online and in-person.
Created a joyful AF,Ā full of YOU dating profile AND in-person dating plan that attracts the right people-- online and IRL-- and disqualifies the rest.
Reignited your dating life with a powerful strategy (leading to dates that make you feel like “Whoa, I didn’t know this existed.”).
Discovered how to increase the quality of your dates every time with our Date Feedback System, so you finally feel like the boss of your dating life.
Sharpened your intuition and self-trust skills so that you have confidence in EVERY dating decision you make, whether to bless and release, or take things to the next level with an awesome person.
“After diving into The Brazen Breakthrough, my dating life is like night and day. I met a partner who has become such an integral part of my life. He’s serious about maintaining a healthy relationship, communicates well, and treats me like a queen. Now I know that I deserve nothing less for my life.”
Maya
Washington, DC
How does The Brazen Breakthrough work?
Inside, you'll find our proven, step-by-step system in the modules below, along with video guides and workbooks every step of the way.
ModuleĀ 1
Calm Your Freakout (aka Caring for Your Nervous System)
STOP BLAMING YOURSELF
Dating is activating as hell. In this lesson, youāll learn how to stop these freakouts in their tracks with the skill of self-compassion. This isnāt just āgoing easy on yourselfā-- itās a proven framework to decrease stress and increase resilienceā two things that will help you get results faster inside The Brazen Breakthrough.
GET COZY WITH YOUR FEELS
This is where your dating feelings vocabulary explodes with brilliance. Identifying how you feel and identifying where that feeling is in your body with granularity is a proven tool to help you move through hard feelings with swiftness.
HOW TO FEEL ANYTHING
Youāre getting stuck in your dating life because youāre pushing the hard feelings aside. This is where you learn to face them, process them, and actually move through them effectively, so you can get to courageous action (and amazing dates) faster.
ModuleĀ 2
The Complete Dating Detox
DETOX FROM DATING
Delete all dating apps, bless and release your āroster,ā get out of scarcity dating decisions, and learn how to get the rejuvenating dating rest. In this lesson, youāll heal your burnout, get major clarity, and get to the best dates of your life afterwards with grounded confidence.
DETOX FROM OTHER PEOPLEāS DATING ADVICE
Every cousin/co-worker/Tiktok person has an opinion on your dating life. The problem is that youāve stopped listening to yourself. This is where you strip away that noise and learn how to heal your relationship to your inner voice.
DETOX FROM DATING WORRY
Itās time to unlearn dating worry as your default. Youāll learn an evidence-based strategy to release worry and build new, powerful beliefs about your dating life, which will allow you to take massive action forward with confidence.
ModuleĀ 3
Illuminate Deeper Preferences
RELATIONSHIP REFLECTION GUIDE
Time to heal your past patterns. This framework will allow you to see your past dating choices in a new light. No self-blame, all the self-compassion and growth. Youāll have Oprah-level ah-ha moments on where you need to grow and what you need to change to find the most extraordinary relationship of your life.
CREATE ESSENCE-BASED PREFERENCES
Time to ditch the rigid checklist and create your Essence-Based Preferences. EBPs are a living, breathing documentation of your desires. Theyāre a vocabulary to describe how you want to FEEL in the right relationship. And your unique EBPs will make you a magnet for the right relationship.Ā
CLAIM QUALIFYING + DISQUALIFYING QUESTIONS
Using your Essence-Based Preferences and Lily's list of 100+ Q/D questions, you'll create your bold and courageous communication strategy. This will be your crystal clear system to know who is right for you in less time and to bless and release those who are not.
ModuleĀ 4
Create Your Dating Strategy
JOYFUL AF DATING APP STRATEGY
Youāll learn how to get in charge of dating apps, so youāre never the victim of dating app burnout again. Choose the app thatās best for your personality based, build a joyful dating profile grounded in your Essence-Based Preferences and Q/D Questions, create boundaries that will protect your heart time as you attract the best dates for you online.
JOYFUL AF IN-PERSON DATING STRATEGY
This lesson makes dating apps optional. Learn how to confidently attract love in person with these three stepsā Joy-Building, Co-Conspirators, and Approaching People. So you can have more fun than you thought possible AND attract the best dates of your life with intentional support from your loved ones.
Module 5
Reignite Your Dating Life (aka Start Dating!)
OWNING YOUR ATTRACTION
Learn Lily's "Attraction Buckets" system to get out of overwhelm and into clear, bold, consistent action. No more asking "Did I just say yes/no to the wrong person?" With this system you'll start deepening your self-trust in EVERY dating decision you make.
USING YOUR DATE FEEDBACK SYSTEM
After going on dates, itās time to tune into your intuition and self-trust using our Date Feedback System. Checking in with yourself with this tool intentionally after every date will allow you to sharpen your decision making skills and youāll see the quality of your matches go up and up and up.
SELF-CELEBRATION
Bragging is crucial to attracting someone who is super into you. With this tool, youāll know exactly how to celebrate yourself as a STRATEGY for finding love.
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The Brazen Breakthrough will give you the exact tools, coaching, and community to attract the love of your life easefully, without the worry, overthinking or mind drama.
"Prior to this program, I was feeling desperate (and I didn't know how much my insecurity was impacting my dating life).Ā
I came in thinking I was going to relaunch my dating life, which I absolutely did. And it feels great.
What I didn't expect was how much I am now building a life I love because of the questions and work I did as a part of this program.
I loved this programĀ because it was self-paced. I could make the intentional time for it when I had the time. It also allowed me to take different weeks at a different pace-- because this work is deep.Ā
I'm now walking into my dating life feeling confident.Ā I now believe that what is meant for me will not pass me by. And leading up to meeting that person, I'm going to live an intentional kick-ass life. And I know the right person will be drawn to that." - Lauren
What's Included:
12-month access to theĀ step-by-step, self-paced Brazen Breakthrough program, with 20+ bite sized videos, printableĀ workbooks, and checklists out the wazoo, so you can propel yourself forward.
12 months of Group Coaching Calls, 3x per month, so you can get your face coached off, get your dating questions answered, and leave AMPED UP to trust yourself and find extraordinary. All are recorded and put in your portal.
12 months of daily coaching in Slack to get unstuck fast, build community, friendship with other members.
Your Joyful AF Dating Profile Review Process. With The Brazen Breakthrough system, you'll know exactly how to craft a unique, authentic, gorgeous dating profile that attracts the best for you and you can get it edited and approved by The BB Coaching Team.
Bonuses! "WTF to Say Next Guide", our Date Feedback System, Date Brazen Podcast listening guide, Pre and Post Date meditations, Visioning Meditations, and more extra special bonus trainings scheduled throughout the year.
Brazen Breakthrough Wins
Ā Success after The Brazen Breakthrough could look like an incredible relationship like Helen, Stephanie, or Maya.
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Equally celebrated successĀ looks likeā¦
āØ You feel grounded and calm in your dating strategy, you allow yourself rest often, you only go on dates with people who you have intrigue for. You are actually feeling JOY in your dating life.
āØYou know you're making all the right moves in your dating life that will lead to extraordinary. Because now you have these tools and believe this truth: "When I trust myself, I'm doing the right thing."
āØ Your dating life is finally in alignment with the rest of your badass life. You have the tools and skills you need to believe what you want is available AND find what you desire.
āØ You set powerful boundaries often, and your time is no longer swallowed up with dating worry and swiping anxiety. You trust your plan.
āØ When friends & family ask and share unsolicited dating advice, you now confidently say: "I love you, and I've got this." You are LIVING your unconventional and self-trusting strategy.
āØ You know you are completely whole without a relationship AND you give yourself permission to own every single desire. You boldly ask for what you want often and out loud.
āØĀ How We Guarantee Your Success āØ
WeĀ have created a fun game to help every single client get guaranteed results of a confident and joyful dating life that makes the right relationship inevitable. It's called Brazen Breakthough Bingo!
Each card represents transformative milestones inside The Brazen Breakthrough, measuring your progress and gathering evidence of your growth along the way. Stay motivated, track your progress, and celebrate each win as you create your most confident + joyful-as-fuck dating life.
8 years ago, I was a top professional matchmaker, setting up hundreds, and was also in a toxic romantic relationship. I felt completely lost. Shoving my needs into a box. Unsure if more was possible for me.
As a "late bloomer" who had settled again and again for toxic situationships, finding a loving partner felt like a sparkly pipe dream. Wayyyy out there. Not mine. Not possible. I felt isolated from my friends and family who had āfigured it out,ā and I was deadly afraid of settling again.
I looked around for help. My therapist hadn't dated in 30 years, my friends just told me to download another dating app, and I wanted something deeper than a setup. That's when I started looking beneath the surface of my checklist, why I was ok accepting so little, and how my mindset was holding me back from accepting more, this process started transforming my life. I was my first client.
With this process that now is The Brazen Breakthrough, I starting feeling confident, joyful, and flirty as hell in my dating life. And ultimately, this process is what attracted my husband, Chris.
After coaching hundreds of women to build dating lives that feel like an act of self-care, I know creating the expansive, joyful, and courage-filled love life you desire (including attracting the right person and BEING in the right relationship) means creating a plan of action in your dating life that feels like coming home.
After joining The Brazen Breakthrough, you'll know every single preference, you'll release dating worry as your default, you'll know exactly how to attract the right people for you-- online and in-person, you'll feel peace and confidence in every dating decision you make. And the right relationship will follow.
Join NowAll your hot questions
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Is it normal to get help with my dating life? Iāve never done anything like this before.
Is this self-guided program right for me? Will I get support when I need it?
Is this program only for women?
Can I join if I say āAll Lives Matter?ā
What do you mean this is a "feminist" program?
I'm disabled. Will this program be accessible to me?
How old are the other people in this program?
Can you really get *me* results?
What if I donāt have time for this? Iām really busyā¦
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More Brazen Breakthrough Wins
"Joining the Brazen Breakthrough shifted my mindset from negative thoughts to reframing my thoughts. I'm feeling really positive and I'm not as anxious.Ā I never would have thought 6 months ago I would be courageous enough to ask a guy out that I thought was so hot.
I brought a lot of the workbooks to therapy with me. I feel like it helped us connect a little bit more and she could understand me a little bit better and where I was coming from with this relationship aspect.
Once I got into the Brazen Breakthrough, I realized, āOh, everyone's in the same spot as me.ā We're all here for the same reason. We're all coming from different places, but it's kind of for the same reason.
It's been a whole life change and it's not just about the relationships.Ā You know, it's everything else. And the relationship and the dating is like icing on the cake."
-Felicia
"I joined The Brazen Breakthrough because, even though Iād done so much work on the rest of my life, dating was the one place I didnāt feel supported.Ā Because of the Brazen Breakthrough, I broke a 15 year pattern of settling and am now going on the best dates of my life.Ā Iām now pursuing my joy differently, asking for what I want directly, setting bold boundaries that protect my heart time. I now have amazing, new single friends from this container and a juicy, joyful, in-person dating life that I know will lead to the right people for me."
-ChloƩ M.
"I'm seeing so much more joy in all of it
The growth that I've seen in myself and the way that it's changed who I am and all aspects of my life has been like totally worth it.
I think before the Brazen Breakthrough I was having a hard time trusting myself to even take myself to the next step, and now I'm like, 'Oh, no, I can think 5 steps down the line and trust I'll get there.'
If you found Lily or the Brazen Breakthrough, itās my belief that itās destined to be."
-Ellie
"I feel like after going through the Brazen Breakthrough program, I have really changed the way that I show up in a relationship.Ā I'm in a relationship andĀ Iām actually about to move in with my BF that I met after doing the work in BB.Ā
I took the energy of the program in and brought it to other areas of my life. That frees up more space for the good stuff in life and the things that you want to spend energy on. I had never spent money on myself for something like this before.
And I think with the Brazen program,Ā it's such a refreshing perspective on how dating can be joyfulāand even though for meāit hadn't felt like that for a really long time."
-O. G.
"The coursework alone made the program worth the investment for me. Taking the time to figure out my essence-based preferences and to reflect on how I want to FEEL around a partner was life changing for me.Ā
I met someone about halfway into my time in the program.
Focusing on how I wanted to feel allowed me to be really present with this person, which gave me the space to recognize that it felt really fucking good to be around him. (Not to mention, this man keeps doing my dishes and making my bed when Iām not looking!) The Brazen Breakthrough helped me figure out and claim everything I desired in a partner, and I believe that knowingāand namingāwhat I desired really did help me find it.
I would be lying if I said that getting into the best relationship of my life wasnāt what I was hoping to get out of the Brazen Breakthrough.Ā But this program has brought me so much more than that! I could probably write a treatise on all the reasons the Brazen Breakthrough is the best thing a single human can do for their dating life, but I think what has been most transformative is how much Iāve learned about myself and whatās important to me. This growth has reverberated into areas of my life beyond dating, and I will be forever grateful to you and this program for helping me grow so much over the last year!"
-Mishi
"I Identified as a long-time single lady. That was a core part of my identity.Ā I didn't really start dating until I was about 30.Ā There was a lot of stress around the idea of ā if I go out with more people, if I just go on more dates, if I'm on more apps, then eventually something will happen and I just have to give people a chance and I just have to keep pushing.
What I've developed through the program is the belief that, actually, I take good care of myself. I make good decisions about a lot of things! I've felt for years that I didn't make good decisions about dating, that it was my fault I was single. Having the permission and the framework of the Brazen Breakthrough helped me to question that and to realize, 'No, actually I do make good decisions.'Ā I now feel in control, like I can pursue what I want to pursue."
-Anna M.